Why everyone wins when men are masculine and women are feminine. Why does modern relationship life between the genders often fall out of balance? The Viennese psychiatrist and neuroscientist Raphael M. Bonelli delves into the inner lives of men and women, particularly illuminating the unconscious and repressed aspects that influence today's partnerships: open relationships that aren't quite so open, men searching for their feminine side, genderless friendships that turn out to be quite sexual, and career women with paradoxical yearnings to be homemakers. Bonelli shares case stories from his own therapeutic practice in a way that is both entertaining and empathetic, far removed from clichés and ideologies. He identifies four unconscious love killers and analyzes how modern masculinity and femininity can harmonize with each other.